What Are You Afraid Will Happen If It Works?

There’s probably something sitting on your to-do list right now that has been there longer than you want to admit.

Maybe you’re going to create the offer. Raise the price. Send the email. Hire someone. Launch the program. Pitch yourself for the opportunity.

You’ve decided to do it. You know it matters.

And somehow, at the end of another very busy day, everything else got done except that.

So you move it to tomorrow. Then tomorrow becomes next week. Next week becomes next month.

Eventually you’re spending more energy thinking about doing the thing than it would probably take to actually do it.

People love to say, “Do it scared.”

But there’s a problem with that advice. Sometimes you don’t know you’re scared.

Fear of Success Doesn’t Always Feel Like Fear

Fear can feel like needing more clarity. It can sound like:

“I need to research this a little more.”
“I should see what everyone else is doing first.”
“I’ll have more capacity next month.”
“Once the kids are older, I’ll be able to focus.”
“I’m just not quite ready.”

And sometimes those things are true. There are real seasons where you need more support, more information or fewer things on your plate.

The question is what happens when the same project keeps getting postponed. That’s when I think it’s useful to ask:

What am I predicting will happen if this works?

We spend a lot of time talking about fear of failure. What if nobody buys? What if people judge me? What if I launch something and it flops?

Those fears are usually easy to recognize. Fear of success can be much sneakier.

What Do You Think Success Is Going to Cost You?

You might want a bigger business on paper while simultaneously believing:

If I become too successful, I’ll outgrow my partner.
If I make more money, I won’t have enough time for my kids.
If my business gets bigger, I’ll have to work all the time.
If I charge more, I’ll become greedy.
If I become really visible, everyone will have an opinion about me.
If I have a huge launch, I’ll have to keep performing at that level forever.
If I make more money, I might become one of those successful people I don’t even like.

You might never say any of those things out loud. You may not consciously think them at all.

Instead, you just keep putting off the actions that could create the growth you say you want.

Sending the email is easy. What makes it feel heavy is the imaginary chain reaction you’ve attached to what might happen after the email works.

You’re Living Through a Future That Hasn’t Happened

This can happen with almost every type of business growth.

You think about hiring someone and immediately picture yourself managing them all day.

You think about launching a program and picture customers needing you around the clock.

You imagine becoming more visible and picture strangers picking apart everything you say.

You imagine a successful launch and immediately think, “How am I going to keep this up?”

Suddenly you’re exhausted by a business you haven’t even built yet.

I’ve done this in my own life. One fear I’ve had is that becoming too successful would somehow change my relationship with my husband.

I had seen enough examples of people becoming more successful, changing dramatically and eventually getting divorced that my brain started treating that sequence of events like a potential rule.

So I finally said it out loud. I told my husband I was afraid that if my business became too successful, we might grow apart.

His response was basically, “I’m not scared of that. Go get it. We’ll figure it out together.”

We’ve been married for 18 years. If something starts feeling wrong, we can talk about it.

The conversation reminded me that I had been trying to solve his hypothetical reaction without actually asking him how he felt.

Maybe You Want the Empire and the Chickens

There are all these Reels about wanting to build an empire on Monday and wanting to disappear into the country to raise chickens and bake sourdough by Tuesday.

I relate. A lot of entrepreneurs do.

Part of you wants to know what you’re capable of. You have ideas, ambition, work you’re proud of and things you still want to create.

Another part of you says:

I want slower mornings.
I don’t want everybody to have access to me.
I don’t want to spend my entire day managing people.
I don’t want my business to require constant interaction.

Those things don’t automatically have to be opposites. Instead of choosing between “empire” and “chickens,” get curious about what each one represents.

What do you want from the empire? Freedom? Money? Impact? Work that you’re proud of? The ability to travel?

What do you want from the chickens and the sourdough? Quiet? Fewer interruptions? Time with your family? Something you can do with your hands and finish without asking anyone’s opinion?

There might be pieces of both that belong in the life you’re building.

Some of Your Resistance Might Be Practical

This is where the conversation gets especially interesting for business owners.

Sometimes you say you want to make more money, but your current business model has taught you that more money means more clients. More clients means more hours. More hours means less freedom.

If that’s the equation you’re working with, of course part of you is resisting growth.

There may be nothing mysterious about that resistance. Your brain might be correctly identifying that the way you currently make money has a capacity ceiling.

If you’re already overwhelmed serving one-on-one clients, doubling your revenue by doubling your client load sounds terrible.

That’s where creating a scalable offer becomes relevant.

A Scalable Offer Shouldn’t Create a Bigger Job for You

I caught myself doing this a few years ago while designing a new offer.

I was trying to make it incredibly valuable. I wanted it to feel like a no-brainer. And somehow social media management started making its way into the offer.

Actual social media management. The thing I was doing for clients back in 2011 and 2012.

I had to stop myself. Allie. Ma’am. You speak at Social Media Marketing World. You consult on social media. You do not want to manage 20 people’s Instagram accounts.

Nobody was forcing me to include that service. I was creating the offer.

But because I knew how to do it, and I knew clients would value it, I almost built myself another job.

You don’t have to put something into an offer simply because you know how to do it. You also don’t have to keep selling something you no longer want to deliver.

Start With the Result

If you currently help someone one-on-one, start by asking what result you actually create.

Maybe you help a client get more visibility, write a sales page, create a marketing strategy, build a funnel or develop stronger messaging.

Now ask: How could someone reach that same result through a group program?

Could you teach the framework?
Could you create a step-by-step process?
Could you give them a template?
Could they bring their work to a group coaching call for feedback?
Could part of the process become self-paced?

A group program or course does not automatically become less valuable just because you aren’t personally doing every step for the customer. The delivery mechanism changes. The result can still be incredibly valuable.

And once you separate the result from the exact way you’ve always delivered it, you can start designing the offer around the business and life you actually want.

What support will you provide?
How will questions get answered?
What will you personally review?
What is the customer responsible for implementing?
How can you create one-to-many support without multiplying your workload every time you make another sale?

Those questions can completely change your relationship with growth.

Instead of “Do It Scared,” Start Tiny

You do not have to solve every possible future version of your life before you move forward.

You don’t need to convince yourself that becoming wildly successful could never affect your marriage, your family, your time or your priorities.

You need the next step.

Maybe that means having the conversation with your partner. Maybe it means establishing working hours before accepting a new opportunity. Maybe you need to hire someone. Maybe you need to simplify your offer. Maybe you need to stop asking five other people what they think and listen to your own gut. Maybe you need to create the minimum viable version and put it in front of real people.

So look at the thing that keeps getting pushed to the bottom of your list and ask yourself: What am I predicting will happen if this works?

Figure out which parts are real logistical problems you can plan for and which parts are hypothetical outcomes you’ve been treating like guarantees.

Then start tiny. Take one step. Then take the next one.

If you want help designing an offer that lets you serve more people without simply creating more work for yourself, my $27 Scalable Offer Workshop is open at tinyoffer.com/class.

I talk through all of this, including my own fears about what success might cost, in the full episode of Start Tiny. Hit play at the top of this page, or listen wherever you get your podcasts.

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